Friday, October 28, 2011
Before I get started I need to confess I'm starting to get that look, if you have ever lived in Utah, you know the one, the all-encompassing stare down that screams "Why aren't you married yet?" Don't you realize you're 24, you've been back from your mission like three years now so there must be something wrong. Don't you realize that you've already lost your hair? If you wait any longer you're going to cost yourself eternal salvation silly! It's true in approximately eight months I officially become a "menace to society" and yet I'm totally OK with that. Don't get me wrong, it's not that I don't want to get married or even be in a relationship, it's the opposite actually, but what's with the pressure? Who you marry is the most important decision in your life, and that's why I take it seriously, but I feel who I date and when I meet the person that I'm supposed to spend eternity with isn't something that should be put on a time table. This is not an anti-dating blog, actually I've chosen to write this to help myself and others find their eternal companions, my goal is to help people become comfortable with who they are so they can become comfortable with someone else. The first key to successful dating is to love yourself. If you don't love yourself it is nearly impossible to be successful in relationships.Don't get me wrong, there are plenty of people who aren't necessarily comfortable in their own skin that end up in relationships or even married with families but often times these relationships are plagued with difficulties and abuse. If want to find true happiness in relationships, we need to love ourselves to make sure we avoid people who bring us down to build themselves up. So if there is anything you get out of this first blog post I hope that you take some time to get to know who you really are and where you stand in life. If you do this you'll be happier and more confident and confidence leads to success in relationships(shoutout to Jenessa for that). In the upcoming weeks I'll be directing more concrete issues in Utah dating culture like the importance of the first date and how to turn it into third and fourth dates, online dating vs. the "meat market" and other issues that come with our unique culture. Feel free to suggest ideas and post comments so I can improve the content and the context of my blog to help people out. Thanks a bunch!